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Several years back, I kept getting a call from a strange number and ignoring it. A few days later, I get a text saying, "if you get a call from an xxx number, pick up...it's Michael, he's calling you from jail." So I pick up the next time the number calls, and sure enough, it's one of my friends from college. He's been in jail for months, awaiting trial for a marijuana-related charge. He's calling old friends to catch up because he's bored. We hadn't spoken in years. I let him know that in the years since we had spoken, my brother went to law school and is now a practicing defense attorney. I tell my friend he should reach out to my brother and provide his number. Michael does contact my brother. Turns out my bro is law school buddies with the ADA of the county where Michael is facing these charges. Brother makes a call and gets all charges dropped. My friend calls me a few weeks later after he's out of jail and says: "Allyson, is this what white privilege feels like?"

One of my best friends married a man she met on Hinge. She had the typical dating app experience and went on lots of dates before finally finding her now husband. He downloaded the app, and she was the first woman he matched with. He never met any other women from the app. Imagine downloading a dating app and the first person you meet is the one. Hinge should sponsor him.

Early on in my relationship with my very tall guy, we had an ongoing debate about whether or not I would win in a fight against him, provided I was armed with a pool stick. I may have seen one too many movie, but I genuinely believed that a pool cue would give me the edge needed to overcome a 9" 75+ lb difference (in addition to the gender strength gap). After months of debating this back and forth, one night at a bar he finally had enough, threw me a pool cue and told me to swing it at him as hard as I could. After some convincing, I did it. I swung as hard as my tipsy self could. And he effortlessly caught the pool stick and pulled it from my hands, leaving me unarmed and defenseless. (And completely ending that debate.) Most women are delusional about our physical capabilities relative to men. Thanks, Marvel.

Was in love with a man and came to Dallas to visit him during covid. Over drinks, he told me he loved me enough to be honest with me. He knew how I felt about him, but the future mother of his children would be a woman who took care of herself. I was devastated, but I took what he said to heart. I went back to Atlanta, lost half my bodyweight, started prioritizing genuine self-care, and went blonde. We're getting married in 6 weeks.

Most insufferable man I matched with on Hinge was a middle-aged CRE guy. Asked him to let me know the make and model of his car so I could have a guest parking pass preemptively printed for him. (We were meeting at my place and walking to a spot in midtown for drinks.) He says,

I lost 120+ lbs, went blonde, whitened my teeth, and cleared up my skin without mentioning any of it to my Very Tall Guy after he moved back to Dallas during COVID. After completing my transformation, I manufactured a reason to fly to Dallas and run into him. He was shocked. 6 months later he called and said I was the one and he wanted to spend his life with me. Highly recommend the shock value approach.

Two years ago I went on a date with the exec chef of one of Atlanta's (now) Michelin starred restaurants. When he showed up, he said, "you ate at my restaurant in April with an older Asian man and last month with someone I am guessing was your brother because you seemed much…

The biggest advocates for WFH are people later in their careers with minimal career ambition and people too early in their careers to know better.

Very tall guy asked me to bake him a cake for his birthday. He specifically requested coconut cake with lemon curd filling, so I made him coconut cake with coconut Swiss meringue buttercream frosting, filled and topped with lemon curd. Coated with toasted coconut, all from

We did not do a registry for our wedding because we already have everything we need, and we didn't want guests to feel obligated to buy a gift. This was a mistake. Guests do NOT like this.

After seeing Ben Stiller's post about Heavyweights, I've been watching old childhood movies. Angels in the Outfield. The Sandlot. Rookie of the Year. Am I just nostalgic or were movies actually way better when we were kids?

This is mortifying to post, but many of you have DMed asking to see my full transformation and advice about how I did it. So here it goes. This is exactly how I lost 120+ lbs and changed my entire life in just under a year. First, I thought of the life I wanted and person I wanted to be. 1. Attractive  2. Skilled at entertaining 3. Interesting  4. Good at conversation/comfortable in crowds 5. Well-dressed 6. Able to walk in heels  Next I looked at who I currently was and made a list of outcomes that would need to occur to realize my dream life. Then I broke down each outcome into the actions I could take to make it happen. To be more attractive, I needed to: Lose 120 lbs. I did this by walking 8500+ steps/day, drinking 80+ oz water/day, tracking my calories and maintaining a 1000 calorie/day deficit. Following this system, I lost just over 2 lbs per week for 11 months to realize this outcome. Whiten my teeth. I became rigid about brushing my teeth and flossing my teeth at least twice per day. I bought extra strength Crest Whitestrips and used them every Sunday night until I was satisfied. Clear up my skin. I joined Curology and followed their prescribed morning and evening skincare routines. I wore sunscreen. And I drank 80+ oz water every day. Go blonde. I found the best salon in Atlanta and reached out. It took me 4 months to get an appointment. After that, I told the stylist my goals and fully leaned on her expertise and advice. It took several appointments before I was blonde. (This was expensive.) To be more skilled at entertaining, I needed to: Practice hosting people. I made myself invite friends over once/quarter for a small party/event. I did the Superbowl, a girls' night, July 4th party, Friendsgiving, and a Christmas cookie exchange.  To be more interesting and to be more skilled at conversation, I needed to: Have more to talk about.  I read (at least) one book every month and forced myself to alternate between non-fiction and fiction. I hadn't read a fiction book since high school, and it was a good change to read them again.  Be less awkward around strangers. I found volunteer groups and started participating. The Piedmont Park Conservancy emails park clean up dates and you can just show up and help. I started there. This put me in a low stakes environment around people with various backgrounds.  I also started eating by myself at bars in nice establishments. Rumi's, Bulla, Canoe, and Loews were my go-to spots. I made friends with the bartenders. I talked to the people who sat down at the bar. To be well-dressed, I needed to: Fix my wardrobe.  I went to Nordstrom and established a relationship with one of their stylists. They offer their services free of charge (stylists get commission, so buy stuff). I bought clothes that suited my body and the vibes I wanted to project.  To walk in heels, I needed to: Literally be able to walk in heels. I made myself wear heels around my apartment while doing chores for a minimum of 15 minutes each day. As I got more comfortable, I made myself wear them out to dinner. And then into the office. By the end of the year, I was able to run through the Seattle airport with bags while wearing stilettos to catch a flight. And that is what I did.  At the end of the year, I was a completely different person. You can change your entire life. You just have to choose to.

Dating advice for women: Be thin. Be pleasant. Be self-aware.

During my Hinge days, I met all of my first dates at one of four places where I was a regular and knew the bartenders. I usually went early and had a drink by myself, giving the bartender the lowdown on the guy I was meeting. One guy walked in, sat next to me, immediately looked at my feet and said, "Oh thank God. You're not a foot catfish. Your toes are just as pretty in person." The bartender was standing there waiting to take his order and said, "man what the fuck. You foot fetish people are weird. Just pay for her drink and go. This isn't going to work out." Good bartenders are worth their weight in gold.

I went through an HR investigation at my previous company because I told a class of new hires, fresh out of college, that while it was not mandatory, they would help their career advancement by coming into the office and getting face time with the leadership team. I told them this was not unique to our company. It was universally true in corporate. "Coming into the office, even a few days a week, is low-hanging fruit." Next thing I know, I'm talking to HR about making the new hires "feel pressured not to take advantage of WFH." I haven't given unsolicited advice since.

There is no other phase of life that will ever replicate the environment offered during your college years. You will never have another opportunity to be surrounded by people your own age, full of optimism and ambition, eager to make new friends and build experiences together. Do not encourage your children to forgo that experience.

One of my best friends married a man she met on Hinge. She had the typical dating app experience and went on lots of dates before finally finding her now husband. He downloaded the app, and she was the first woman he matched with. He never met any other women from the app. Imagine downloading a dating app and the first person you meet is the one. Hinge should sponsor him.

Most insufferable man I matched with on Hinge was a middle-aged CRE guy. Asked him to let me know the make and model of his car so I could have a guest parking pass preemptively printed for him. (We were meeting at my place and walking to a spot in midtown for drinks.) He says,

The biggest advocates for WFH are people later in their careers with minimal career ambition and people too early in their careers to know better.

Our real estate agent just told us she judges everyone by the car they drive.

Every man should be able to talk in depth about world history for at least 45 minutes.

Early on in my relationship with my very tall guy, we had an ongoing debate about whether or not I would win in a fight against him, provided I was armed with a pool stick. I may have seen one too many movie, but I genuinely believed that a pool cue would give me the edge needed to overcome a 9" 75+ lb difference (in addition to the gender strength gap). After months of debating this back and forth, one night at a bar he finally had enough, threw me a pool cue and told me to swing it at him as hard as I could. After some convincing, I did it. I swung as hard as my tipsy self could. And he effortlessly caught the pool stick and pulled it from my hands, leaving me unarmed and defenseless. (And completely ending that debate.) Most women are delusional about our physical capabilities relative to men. Thanks, Marvel.

Was in love with a man and came to Dallas to visit him during covid. Over drinks, he told me he loved me enough to be honest with me. He knew how I felt about him, but the future mother of his children would be a woman who took care of herself. I was devastated, but I took what he said to heart. I went back to Atlanta, lost half my bodyweight, started prioritizing genuine self-care, and went blonde. We're getting married in 6 weeks.

Why would you NOT encourage your kids to go to college? 1. It still correlates highly with future success, and they can still practice a trade with a college degree. (Or buy one, based on common SMB posts here.) But mostly 2. College is awesome and provides a unique experience you will not get the chance to recreate otherwise. Why wouldn't you want your children to have those 4(ish) years, the memories, and the friendships?

This is mortifying to post, but many of you have DMed asking to see my full transformation and advice about how I did it. So here it goes. This is exactly how I lost 120+ lbs and changed my entire life in just under a year. First, I thought of the life I wanted and person I wanted to be. 1. Attractive  2. Skilled at entertaining 3. Interesting  4. Good at conversation/comfortable in crowds 5. Well-dressed 6. Able to walk in heels  Next I looked at who I currently was and made a list of outcomes that would need to occur to realize my dream life. Then I broke down each outcome into the actions I could take to make it happen. To be more attractive, I needed to: Lose 120 lbs. I did this by walking 8500+ steps/day, drinking 80+ oz water/day, tracking my calories and maintaining a 1000 calorie/day deficit. Following this system, I lost just over 2 lbs per week for 11 months to realize this outcome. Whiten my teeth. I became rigid about brushing my teeth and flossing my teeth at least twice per day. I bought extra strength Crest Whitestrips and used them every Sunday night until I was satisfied. Clear up my skin. I joined Curology and followed their prescribed morning and evening skincare routines. I wore sunscreen. And I drank 80+ oz water every day. Go blonde. I found the best salon in Atlanta and reached out. It took me 4 months to get an appointment. After that, I told the stylist my goals and fully leaned on her expertise and advice. It took several appointments before I was blonde. (This was expensive.) To be more skilled at entertaining, I needed to: Practice hosting people. I made myself invite friends over once/quarter for a small party/event. I did the Superbowl, a girls' night, July 4th party, Friendsgiving, and a Christmas cookie exchange.  To be more interesting and to be more skilled at conversation, I needed to: Have more to talk about.  I read (at least) one book every month and forced myself to alternate between non-fiction and fiction. I hadn't read a fiction book since high school, and it was a good change to read them again.  Be less awkward around strangers. I found volunteer groups and started participating. The Piedmont Park Conservancy emails park clean up dates and you can just show up and help. I started there. This put me in a low stakes environment around people with various backgrounds.  I also started eating by myself at bars in nice establishments. Rumi's, Bulla, Canoe, and Loews were my go-to spots. I made friends with the bartenders. I talked to the people who sat down at the bar. To be well-dressed, I needed to: Fix my wardrobe.  I went to Nordstrom and established a relationship with one of their stylists. They offer their services free of charge (stylists get commission, so buy stuff). I bought clothes that suited my body and the vibes I wanted to project.  To walk in heels, I needed to: Literally be able to walk in heels. I made myself wear heels around my apartment while doing chores for a minimum of 15 minutes each day. As I got more comfortable, I made myself wear them out to dinner. And then into the office. By the end of the year, I was able to run through the Seattle airport with bags while wearing stilettos to catch a flight. And that is what I did.  At the end of the year, I was a completely different person. You can change your entire life. You just have to choose to.

I am pretty sick of folks pretending like their bodies are not subject to the laws of physics. If you're not losing weight and you want to lose weight, eat less. It is really that simple.

After seeing Ben Stiller's post about Heavyweights, I've been watching old childhood movies. Angels in the Outfield. The Sandlot. Rookie of the Year. Am I just nostalgic or were movies actually way better when we were kids?

Just stopped at a Buccee's, and I will never do this again.

Dating advice for women: Be thin. Be pleasant. Be self-aware.

It's been cold for literally one day in Texas, and I am questioning why any of you would choose to live somewhere that it's freezing for months at a time.

Yesterday, very tall guy and I spoke to a wedding planner. Prior to booking the consultation, she sent over a price list. Pricing was tiered based on number of guests. After talking to her, she mentioned that she needed to revise her pricing. Just got that updated price list, and each tier is now 50% more expensive. Do we need to pretend to be poor when speaking with vendors?

The weather in Dallas is actually atrocious. I was warned about how hot it gets, but I did not realize how awful winters are.